Many of us overlook our most important sexual partner-ourselves. We have the longest lasting relationship with our own hand as our lover. Masturbation is our first sexual experience in most cases. Girls start earlier than boys usually, since we mature faster. Girls are also capable of full orgasms their whole lives, boys only start to ejaculate from puberty onwards.

I can recall masturbating in the tub from around 3 onwards, but was orgasming by age 8. I was a naughty, curious girl indeed. Finding my mom’s naughty books by Nancy Friday on sexual fantasies and I’d read them after school and they made me want to touch myself and I did…I didn’t know the word for masturbation or orgasm when I started, but soon realized that’s what I was doing was called. Until then I’d just thought of it as rubbing until it felt so good that it hurt, using cream as lube made it feel even better. Not long after my fingers were doing the walking, I discovered the shower massager and the joys it could bring. My grandmother had arthritis and had a back massager thing I soon learned felt good as well, I was a veteran of all three methods at 8! Horny kid I was for sure.

In my teens I was insatiable, masturbating nearly every day after school and sometimes before bed. I never inserted, still don’t, I’m a clit only girl. I don’t enjoy vibrators, I find them equivalent to what some guys call a “ruined orgasm”. It’s an orgasm, but not a satisfying one like water or especially fingers can bring. I used pool jets of water in the pools of family friends, at hotels, I was shameless. The orgasm from water is so fast and intense though, it literally only took a couple of minutes, so you could be quite brazen in doing it. At 15 we were housesitting for a friend of my mom’s and I used a garden hose nozzle like the shower massager on the front lawn sitting on the cement step around midnight as I’d been watering flowers. Good thing no one drove by and caught me in the headlights. Oh what fun we can bring ourselves.